Applicant #28: Alia Rolinski

Alia Rolinski is a 18-year-old from Kitchener.

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Alia current situation:

At the moment, I'm sitting in my room awaiting the thought of a blog to come to me. I know I want to grab the readers attention, but what? There is simply to much to speak about. I have to narrow down my choices: something appropriate, something inspiring,  something worth reading. Okay, I think I have it. Here it goes, just a few last words to close on.

Alia's blog post:

Relationship Rehab

The concept of relationship rehab after a break up is very similar to the concept of any rehab: avoid the very thing you are addicted to.

In this case – get yourself as far from your Ex as possible. I’m positive you’re having a hard time with this but believe me, I did as well.

There are times when you miss your Ex so much it literally hurts, and calling them just seems so easy, right?

But would it really ease your pain?

No.

Trust me, it won’t.

There is nothing your Ex can say that would relieve your pain. They will only make it worse.
You don’t want to know how they are doing, and nothing that you’re going to do will ever be good enough for them.

Period.

Therefore, absolutely NO CONTACT with your Ex is mandatory!

But what can you do when it really gets tough?

There are 3 proven ways that work in this situation:

1. Distraction
   The brain can really only focus on one thing at a time. So, when about to contact an Ex, have a prepared list of distractions that you can put into action. The more work your brain has to do, the better the distraction.
2. Focus on Yourself
   Maybe it sounds selfish but think about yourself right now. What you really need, and want. You’ve spent too much time obsessing about your ex.
3. Heal
   Everyone needs time to heal, so why not treat yourself to something nice? Or how about someone nice? DO whatever it takes, but DO NOT contact your ex.

Remember: There are always more fish in the sea so get out there and swim!

Alia